In the world of social media where everything is enhanced, filtered, cropped, it’s so alluring to become envious of another woman, man or even want to covet that six- pack or that food or better yet that marriage, that husband, and or that wife. To be quite candid we all have our imperfections and insecurities, they are part of who we are, however, I believe they are magnified through the lens of social media.
Please don’t misunderstand me, there are a lot of positive things and images on social media, and there’s a platform that social media provides instantly through the click of a button-even for me- the Christian blogger. It would be hypocritical for me to say social media is not meeting the needs of the “Generation Y”. What I am saying is that we need Godly wisdom to filter through all the junk of social media in order to get to the good stuff. I’m not attacking social media, after all to be relevant as a 21st century Christian; you need a social media account- at least one. I believe our human nature is also part of the problem in embracing who we are. I mean even Eve in the book of Genesis was not content in who God made her to be, hence why she ate the apple… she wanted to discover more. Rather than be content in being part of the first human race, she discovered sin, insecurity, and the list goes on.
I believe we all go through self-discovery at different stages of our lives- a baby discovering she can walk, a woman discovering through the grace of God that she has been empowered to bear down and bring forth life, a man discovering that he holds the seed to bring forth life. These are all awesome discoveries, but throughout the discoveries, embrace who you were created to be- flaws and all. Psalm 139:14(NIV)- I praise you because am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are your works, and that my soul knows very well. Essentially, embrace who you are, accentuate the positives, harness the gifts that reside on the inside of you no matter the season you’re in.
If you’ve just delivered a baby, don’t be too hard on yourself, if you don’t fit into those size 8 jeans for now- progress, not perfection. If you are new parents and its seems as if you and your spouse are worlds apart right now because you’re adjusting to this new transition of your life, don’t be too hard on yourselves- progress not perfection. If someone received a promotion before you at work, don’t be too hard on yourself- progress, not perfection. I believe Rick Perry said it best when he said, “The God we serve does not seek out the perfect, but instead uses our imperfections and our shortcomings for his greater good”. I am humbled by my own limitations. 2 Corinthians 12:9b (NIV) says “Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me”.
When you embrace who you are:
Ø You know your worth– you set the standard of how others treat you. Matthew 10: 30-31(NIV) says “And even the very hairs on your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows”. It’s important that we don’t allow toxic relationships, that we set boundaries and that we don’t let others devalue us or define who we are. Remember you are not a revolving door; people can’t walk in and out of your life as they please. Don’t compromise your principles, values and or standards for anyone.
Ø You become fearless– For God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power and of love and of a sound mind- 2 Timothy 1:7(NKJV). What are you afraid of? Stepping outside the box, success, criticism, failure, and commitment? Being fearless is not having confidence in your ability, but rather the ability of God to work through you. It’s the assurance and confidence of knowing who exactly is on your team-God.
Ø You discover your passion– Follow your passion, wherever it may lead. Pursuing your passion is not about being an overnight success, it’s about pursuing that which excites and inspire others, trusting God along the journey, knowing that he holds the key to your destiny. Jeremiah 29:11(NIV) reminds us that God is mindful of us and our destiny- For I know the plans I have for you, “declares the Lord,” plans to prosper and not harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future”.
Ø You forgive yourself– Matthew 6:12(NIV) says “And forgive us our debts, as we have also forgiven our debtors.” Forgive yourself of past hurts, past mistakes, and let it go. Forgiving yourself does not mean you’re justifying your mistakes, but rather it means that you recognize that you’re human and you did your best with the wisdom and the knowledge you had at the time. Learn from the experience, become a better person and move on.
Ø You don’t apologize for who you are- you accept who you are. The word of God exhorts us to not conform-“And be not conformed to this world, but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God”- Romans 12:2(KJV). Often times when you apologize for who you are, you subconsciously reject who God has made you to be. Granted you should evolve and grow as you go through different stages of life. Nevertheless, you have characteristics that are unique to you and it’s those qualities that make you distinct. You were not born to be like everyone else.
So I’ll conclude with a quote from Steven Furtick- “stop stressing and straining to be a different you, because the real you is perfect and priceless. It’s not only what God has to work with. It’s what God wants to work with. And from that starting place, progress is possible”.