Love is Naked
I know, I know you were expecting me to say Love is patient, love is kind…love endures all things(1 Corinthians 13:4-8)… But I believe all of those attributes are still under the umbrella of being naked and not ashamed(Genesis 2:25). If we look at the bible, (1 Corinthians 13: 4-8) comes later in the scriptures. Paul was trying to teach the Church of Corinth the qualities and actions that is attributed to love. However, when you look in Genesis when God first introduced Adam and Eve to one another, he said they were naked and not ashamed. Gen 2: 25- Both husband and wife, were naked and not ashamed. Yes they were naked in the physical sense, but I would go on further to say in the emotional and spiritual sense as well. Don’t misinterpret me, sex plays a pivotal part in marriage, and I would encourage married couples to walk around each other naked (it wouldn’t hurt). It allows for giving and taking, and gives way to express love using bodily expression. It allows you to connect with your mate’s spirit, soul and body.
However, real intimacy requires more than just physical nakedness. It requires complete trust, honesty and transparency. When we tell our spouse I give you permission to access my physical body, but not the seat of my emotion or my mind, you leave room for deceit, infidelity, emotional affairs, the list goes on.
I believe when you declare your sacred vows “to have and to hold, in sickness and in health”- you are saying I’m letting down every barrier, every wall, every doubt, every fear and I’m here through the seasons of marriage: winter, spring, summer, and fall. I’m opening myself up to be vulnerable to you- my fears, my doubts, my inhibitions, I’m leaving it at the altar of GOD.
I once knew a couple -Steve and Karen. Steve started to grow distant from Karen due to insurmountable stress in the office, but instead of expressing his frustrations to his wife –Karen,he just pushed her away. Soon enough, he started to reject her need and desire for sex. After a while, Karen resorted to pornography. She internalized Steve’s rejection and felt it meant she was not good enough or that Steve was no longer attracted to her. One day Steve walked in on her as she was viewing one of the porn sites. Steve was shocked and disappointed. Despite his disappointment, he was forced to address the issues head on. Karen vowed to not look at any more porn sites and implemented the necessary software that would block her access to the porn sites, while Steve vowed to always keep Karen in the loop and not shut her out even when pressures at work begin to mount.Let truth and forgiveness reign in your marriage and you will begin to see that you have the ingredients to overcome any obstacle.
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